My take on #metoo part 1: The vicious cycle of online dating

It has been a fact for a long time that both men and women's happiness is on the decline. Poll after poll shows an increase in depression and suicide, and just an overall decrease of happiness. One of the biggest reasons for this is dating; or rather, the lack thereof. An increasing number of men and women are single. More and more of them are not interested in dating, or just feel it's too much of a hassle. There are plenty of reasons for this. We live in an age like no other. You don't have to date. It's no longer societally expected of you. That fact makes some people decide they don't want to date. There's also the advent of social media to talk about. Things like Facebook and Instagram and Snapchat have forever changed the dating game. For the worse, in my own opinion. Especially with online dating. I've talked about the vicious cycle of online dating before, but I'll elaborate again for those that don't know what I'm on about.

Men play a numbers game by approaching a large number of women hoping to get a response from one or more of them. Standards get majorly lowered for men as more women that are fairly unattractive respond then women that are fairly attractive do. Not to say that there is any objective measure of beauty or anything, but I feel most men would agree that Scarlett Johansson is much more attractive than Melissa McCarthy. So I'm just talking generally.

The reason the generally more attractive women don't respond as much is because they get an obscene amount of messages or likes per day. We're talking hundreds of messages or likes per day. This allows them to be much more picky, since they clearly have the options. It would be stupid to not go for the best guy there, because again, you have so many options. Maybe this used to be true before online dating, but fewer women were as aware of it. It used to be that men would approach women for conversation in a work or casual setting. In those settings, sure, a man could be approaching you for a date. A man could also be approaching you for a friend, or a partner in tennis, or just for some decent conversation. Online dating is a different beast as it is a setting specifically designed for dating, so you know every like and message is a means to that end. Those hundreds of messages mean that hundreds of men want to date you, so of course it would increase your standards and your self-confidence.
The affect of this increase in the standards of women is a decrease in the standards of men. That means women will have unrealistic expectations of men, and men will try to date far below their "level" in order to just find a date.
Men send messages to more unattractive women to get a response, then those women will get higher standards as a result of mass approach. That would then force men to once again lower their standards. So on and so forth. That is the vicious cycle of online dating.

The point of bringing up this toxic cycle is to demonstrate part of the problem in modern dating. Exactly how do you think this situation plays out? Some pretty attractive guy dating a pretty unattractive women just because it's all he can do as a result of this cycle. All that will happen is a break up. There's a reason people tell you to date on your "level". If you as a guy date a women you don't find very attractive, that won't change just cus you date her for a few months. She might find you very attractive, but you don't find her attractive. The only reason you started dating her is because you didn't have many options. She was the best of those options. She now has this ridiculous expectation of you. That you find her super attractive. Shes become cocky and now believes she is part of the top tier women. We're talking an 7-9/10. She's obviously not, but if you, a 7-8/10 is dating her, it must be because you found her attractive enough, which could only mean she's on your "level" or above it. This is resulting in less and less relationships working out because women now have these ridiculous standards and men have almost none.

This is a serious problem.